It's hard to lose a loved one, but it's also difficult for the one who is dying to say goodbye as they watch their family begin to grieve their loss.
In the book-turned-movie "P.S. I Love You," a woman who lost her husband discovers that he left her special letters designed to help her move forward with her life after his death. It's a touching story that demonstrates how a now-deceased loved one can help loved ones move on, without their presence.
One father did something similar for his daughter.
When Bailey Sellers was 16, her dad passed away. But before his death, he arranged for flowers to be sent to his daughter every year on her birthday until she turned 21.
In his final letter to her on her 21st birthday, Sellers's father wrote:
"This is my last love letter to you until we meet again. I do not want you to shed another tear for me my Baby girl for I am in a better place.
"You are and will always be the most precious jewel I was given. It is your 21st birthday and I want you to always respect your Momma and stay true to yourself.
"Be happy and live life to the fullest. I will still be with you through every milestone, just look around and there I'll be.
"I love you Boo Boo and Happy Birthday!!!!"
Though the letters and flowers are over, her dad promised he would always be there with her - she just has to look around to notice.
She responded, thanking everyone, grateful for those who shared her dad's flowers and note.
Already been the best birthday of my life. Thank you to everyone who shared my dads flowers and note today. ❤ I am trying to message everyone back but it might take me a few days. @Daniel_T_Westpic.twitter.com/yqqHHZWfDI
One Twitter user suggested that Daniel West (pictured with Sellers and tagged in her post) carry on the tradition of annual birthday flowers. He responded, "I most certainly can. Just like her daddy blessed her life, she's the blessing in mine."
I most certainly can. Just like her daddy blessed her life, she's the blessing in mine.
Love doesn't end at death, and that's what Sellers's dad wanted to make sure she understood. Losing a loved one is difficult and painful, but we can honor and remember those we love by thinking of them and the happy memories we had together.
How do you remember the love between you and those who have passed on?
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